During times of frustration, I think it’s important to remind yourself that anything worthwhile takes time.
Using myself as an example here, I’m currently feeling extremely frustrated. The problem is it’s hard to pinpoint the exact reason, or reasons, why.
Part of the problem is most definitely this blog. I want to build it to be great. I have this vision of it becoming an extremely useful resource, one that is able to help transform many lives for the better – starting with my own. Yes, that sounds selfish, but how can you expect to help anyone when you can’t even help yourself? It’s the whole ‘put on your oxygen mask before helping others’ situation.
The thing is that I’m struggling with even helping myself at this stage.
There are most definitely other reasons for these feelings. There’s been a lot of things going on lately in my personal life; family relationships that have completely broken down, people close to me who have been physically and mentally hurt, people who I once classed as best friends now have drifted away and seem as if they’re simply strangers. It all sucks. But then I remind myself, that’s life. It’s not always going to be smooth sailing, quite frankly I wouldn’t want it to be. It’s the shitty times in life that really make you appreciate the good times more.
Or, as Butters from South Park puts it:
Well yeah, I’m sad, but at the same time, I’m really happy that something could make me feel that sad. It’s like, it makes me feel alive, you know? It makes me feel human. And the only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt somethin’ really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good, so I guess what I’m feelin’ is like a beautiful sadness. I guess that sounds stupid.
That’s definitely one of the more insightful quotes from South Park, and it’s one that I think highlights a problem with our world today. Everyone wants to feel happy, productive and on top of the world 24/7, but that’s not realistic. It’s this sort of thinking that can actually have a completely detrimental effect on your life. It’s ok to feel sad, fed up and restless from time to time. Like I mentioned in my earlier post, Everything in Moderation Including Moderation, life is all about balance.
In terms of future content for this blog, I do have a few draft articles and ideas saved. I’m just struggling to find that momentum to pick them up and start adding to them again. I kinda’ just feel stuck in a rut. I’m hoping to get out of this mindset ASAP, and I’m trying my best to do so. Even the typing out of this post is something I’m doing to simply try and build momentum.
I’m taking the advice of Tim Ferriss here, and trying to write a minimum of two crappy pages a day. I’m fully expecting these pages to be crap, but that’s not the point. The point is to (hopefully) help pull myself out of this funk so that I’m able to gain some clarity and start producing useful content that everybody – including me – will find useful.
We really can be our own worst critics, so it’s possible that I’m being too hard on myself here. The question is why. Why am I being this hard on myself? It’s because I know I can do better. And with the knowing I can do better, but failing to deliver on that? Well, that’s what leads to this sense of frustration.
I’m going to leave this here for now. Just know that if you’re currently reading this and feeling that same sense of ‘f*ck this frustration’, whether it’s to do with your mental state, exercise regime, diet discipline etc. – you’re not alone!
Again, just remind yourself that anything worthwhile takes time.
I’ve done my two crappy pages for today.
What about you?