I’ve learnt an important lesson from my fiance lately. It’s a lesson that I think many people could benefit from if they find themselves in a situation that they know needs to change. A situation which makes you miserable and adds nothing of value to your life. It could be the area you live in, the relationships in your life – or like my fiance, it could be your job.
You see, my fiance is currently in a job which she despises. Every day is one hell of a struggle for her and the nights prior to a work day are near enough unbearable at times. This is particularly at it’s worst when Sunday evening rolls around and she has the dread of the coming week. This is likely something that a lot of us can relate to, but there is a stark difference between HATING your job and simply feeling fed up at the thought of going into work.
I personally don’t hate my job, but I don’t particularly like it either.
The people I work with are nice, the workload is steady enough and it’s never too stressful. There’s always something that can be worked on or improved. Do I sometimes wish I was doing something else? Yes, but the problem with me is I never know what that ‘something else’ should be. I’ve chopped and changed my mind more times than I care to think in terms of a career path. I certainly don’t think I’ll be in my current line of work for the rest of my working life. I want to switch it up and move into something else, even though I’m aware that would most likely mean starting from the bottom of whatever pole it is I need to climb. As long as I’m financially secure, I would be ok with that.
My fiance on the other hand? She most definitely hates her job, and for good reasons too.
Most of the people she works with (the exception being some of the older aged colleagues) are extremely cliquey. Try as she has, they don’t take nicely to any attempts of social interaction. Her work environment is very cold, and I’m not just talking about the actual temperature in the office (although it’s apparently always freezing too!). The open plan office she works in is huge – something which she and others have admitted to finding very overwhelming. The fact that the office is always in a dead silence like that of a library makes matters so much worse. The silent office culture is (sadly) something I know quite well myself, but I’ve found ways of coping with this – or at least making it manageable.
My fiance is the sort of person who will get her head down, do her work, but then look for a bit of social interaction back and fore to break the monotony of office work. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Who honestly wants to sit in complete silence for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week!? The office she currently works at doesn’t offer that opportunity in any way, shape or form. There’s not even the existence of small talk, the likes of how was your weekend? or what you up to tonight?
The good news is that she will be starting a new job in the coming weeks. This new job offers more flexibility, a more relaxed office culture, better pay and it’s closer to home. Talk about striking gold! To say she was happy when she got offered the job is an understatement.
So what did I learn from my fiances’ experience with all of this? Why have I bothered to write this post?
I learned the importance of putting yourself out there.
My fiance went through a shitload of job interviews; some good, some mediocre and others were downright awful! Despite this, she kept on putting herself out there. She kept looking at what opportunities were available. She kept applying for jobs that sounded like a good opportunity.
She kept on keeping on.
Instead of simply moaning about her situation, she realised the position she was in was most definitely not for her, and she did something about it.
There were loads of people who kept telling her to stick in, stay put and work at where she was. Try to do something that will help improve her working environment so it’s more bearable. To begin with, I was one of those people. I told her “don’t move jobs, try to improve things where you are instead!” but there’s only so much that one individual can do to try and fit into a work environment where they clearly don’t belong.
I’m extremely happy for her and immensely proud that she’s managed to secure this new job at what sounds like a brilliant company. It really does feel like it’s going to be a perfect fit for her.
I can’t wait for her to start and actually be happy again.
It’s important to put yourself out there – especially when you’re not happy with the current situation you find yourself in.
None of this would’ve happened if she simply gave up after hearing back so many no’s from the jobs she interviewed for. It would’ve been easy to give up, admit defeat and continue working at the job that’s making her miserable. But no one should do that. You should never stay in a job you hate, certainly not long-term anyway. Life really is too short for that, especially when you consider how big a chunk working your job takes out of your life.
So if you’re currently in a situation that you know deep down in your gut has to change, I recommend that you keep putting yourself out there in order to make that change! This doesn’t apply simply to your career, it can be applied to all areas of your life.
Just remember the importance of doing this, and know that persistence is the key.
Don’t give up, and don’t settle for anything less than that which makes you happy. I wish you all the best of luck!
What situation in your life are you currently trying to change? Let me know in the comments section below – I would love to hear your answers.